@deilannmy timing, joining tech dot lgbt was alongside a lot of twitter refugees
but i wasn't a twitter refugee
i hadn't touched twitter since 2012 or so, except when i was mandated to do so for contract reasons
similarly, i hadn't touched facebook in the same time period
i joined fedi to experience social media again, not replace my current social media.it was a response to a completely different event that happened in late 2022.
the election
@deilann@tech.lgbtbut on tech dot lgbt i don't feel that pressure, i don't feel like my very story and identity is being stolen
i feel safe to be who i am
yes, my information can be scraped
it can be stolen
but the action of speaking here isn't inherently surrendering my story to the machine, myself to the machine
fedi let me exist, let me feel like i am allowed to be part of the world even after everything that i've been through
@deilanndecentralized social media matters
@deilannthank you @david @ShadowJonathan @agatha @sudaksis @mods for everything you do and have done to help me heal
@deilanni will probably put this on my blog @deilann@dimetrodon.leoeuler.com later today so it can be boosted in whole but i wanted the thread form to disambiguate the various CW as well
@deilannthe blog post is now up
as it says in the footer, it has been edited in parts to fix grammatical errors, for clarity, and to include additional details that were not part of the original thread. so even if you've read the thread, worth a read.
@agatha@deilann 
i honestly think i only did a minimum but I'm glad you're better now!
@deilann@agatha knowing that mods actively use the instance, not just ... oversee it is crucial to feeling like i can trust an instance is well-maintained
@agatha@deilann i uh... I'm not a mod you know that right?
@deilann@agatha i thought you were in 2022 but stepped down
time is fuzzy
@deilann@agatha you have, however, been support regardless so 
@agatha@deilann that was very funny and got me confused for a sec
@deilann@agatha wtf is time
@agatha@deilann you went to a parallel dimension for a bit and that's where the memories came, i was never a mod wjdhwkhswkjskwjs
@deilann@agatha i have a bad habit of doing that i should stop but living in one reality is so boring
@agatha@deilann i get it
@david@deilann @ShadowJonathan @agatha @sudaksis @mods Glad to have you 
@deilann oh. wow. thank you so much for sharing this. incredibly powerful and important.
@deilann Thank you so much for sharing!
@deilannwe talk a lot about the problems with decentralized social media and we talk a lot about why it matters in generalized terms
but sometimes, we need to talk about stuff in the specific so it really sinks into those weird brains of ours
@deilann One more line item on the list of why I absolutely despise online ads.
And mail ads.
I could already rage about it for hours, and now a minute extra.
@ShadowJonathan@deilann yeah, we're not actively feeding the machine, and they would need to actively seek it out to get that data, and link it
And when I have the energy and time, I block the scrapers that I do see trying to grab that information, to make their databases inconsistent and sloppy, lowering the chances of high-confidence matching, lowering the targeting
@deilann@ShadowJonathan we do not have to go gently into that good night, we can rage, rage against the dying of the light