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#stardewvalley is ****judging**** me with this quest.

"Everyone will like you a little more"

What exactly are you implying with this.

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I really enjoy using this game as an ignoring everyone simulator and so I'm horrified that the well-meaning suggestions of my friends IRL have been inserted into the game too.

I have talked to no one except to complete quests for a year and so the game is like "the NEW quest is talking to people!"

this is pure evil.

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@futurebird
I am the new farmer in town who is only known by walking by in silence.
Okay, I talk to Krobus.
But the reason is that I like Krobus.

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@wakame @futurebird , yes, I do talk to Krobus too.
On Fridays.
We are Silent Duo for life!

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@DrinkFromTheCup @wakame

Kroubus is the best.

I'm now thinking about how being able to choose NOT to do something can be an important part of the fun of a game. Could one design a game that really leans in to the joy of being introverted?

I think this is one of the fun things about stardew. It's a dating sim... but you can just ignore all of that and NOT do it. Delightful!

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@futurebird @DrinkFromTheCup

"If I give $PERSON a $THING for 20 weeks, they will eventually love me."

This is not extraversion, this is buying love with money.

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@wakame @DrinkFromTheCup

The problem with the kind of dude who thinks "give woman $$gift five times: she must like me now" is mostly down to entitlement... but, also they don't bother to find out what the correct gift is.

It's not the value. It's taking the time to learn about the other *person* who *is* a person, not a vending machine.

If these dudes gave better gifts their plan might even work. (and in the course of executing the plan they might make a human connection which is the point)

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@wakame @DrinkFromTheCup

I tended to err in the opposite direction of such dudes. I thought that doing things like working to learn names or making an effort to say something to everyone was "artificial" (it is) but therefore bad and fake and that I should be able to make friends and get to know people ... somehow... without doing any of these things.

This can work but it takes a long time, and you miss so many people that way.

@futurebird @DrinkFromTheCup

To be fair: You can also increase your hearts in Stardew Valley by talking.

Maybe that first feel of "transactional social interaction" in that game just left a bigger impression on me because I found it so weird.

(And personally, I don't really like getting gifts, so that might feed into that feeling.)