crochet, waistcoat stitch, fair isle crochet, work in progress 

Working on a sweater for J. I was really uncertain at first but I'm really enjoying how it's working up and thought I'd share. Pattern is:


The body remembers grief. It secrets it away in joints and glands; releasing it at the appropriate time. It needs no reminder from the conscious self. It remembers.

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Horny, kinky 

The submissive urge to be called "a good [whatever]" and get praise and be made to suffer.

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My computer is not your billboard 

I don't consent to downloading, executing or viewing your ads. You are not entitled to my time, my attention, my computer.

I don't care how much you want the money. How much you say you need it. If you don't want me freeloading, put a paywall; I might not pay, but I don't object to being denied a webpage. I object to ads.

There are no acceptable or ethical ads. Ads are distractions, annoyances, disruptions. They interfere with people's work, fun, mental health.

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Watching Glee, Running Gag 

There's a running gag on glee where when Becky gets mad she takes it out on xylophones.

So every once in a while you see a random xylophone (or marimba or other tonal percussion instrument) and Becky gets mad and goes on a rampage and shoves it over.

It's a little detail, but it always makes me happy.

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work, anecdote 

Last month

us: Hey. we got this data definition and a bunch of stuff is missing. We can do X and Y, but Z isn't possible.

them: Got it. No Problem.


them: OMG Why is Z Missing? We need Z! Why didn't you tell us we wouldn't have Z?

us: *** Stares into Camera ***

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shitpost about horny 

With this pass, you are free to be horny. No more horny jail for you.

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work, complaint, immediacy 

Why is it that whenever something goes wrong a slew of folks who weren't involved in the design decisions or tradeoffs start chiming in with questions that have already been answered as though their concerns are urgent?

I'm happy to rehash those conversations. In a meeting set up for that. Later. NOW is the time to discuss the event and triage.

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Neurodiversity, snark 

Allistic people: How can autistic people be so bad at reading social cues?

Also allistic people: *creates entire genres, like Romantic Comedy, based around entirely avoidable miscommunication*

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queering the world means not recreating the systems that bind us into strict roles

queering relationships means liberating roles from moral value and status


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"fighting your oppressors makes you just as bad as them" - your oppressors

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Controversial take, Sherlock Holmesian Television, it ain't that serious-but Spoilers 

Elementary is the superior Sherlock TV Show.

Johnny Lee Miller is the Superior Holmes.

Lucy Liu is the Superior Watson.

and (This Is the most controversial of all): Natalie Dorman is the Superior Moriarty. (Sorry Andrew Scott, but honestly it's so close that it's basically a tie)

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hi! i'm cal! i'm new here. my friend @enby has been a member of the elephant website for a while and it seems really neat.

i work for a SaaS work management/integration company as an integration engineer (mostly).

i also:
-- crochet
-- attempt to learn (human) languages
-- attempt to learn (computer) languages
-- look up weird articles on wikipedia

im nervous about meeting new people but also excited!

Meta toot, social media 

Something that has taken me a long time to learn but I'm getting there:

I don't have to engage with everyone I disagree with on the Internet. Even if they're engaging with me!

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