@deilann@tech.lgbtdon't wait for your kid to come out
tell them right now: i support and love you no matter your gender or sexuality
the bills in some states mandating teachers inform parents if their child is doing any kind of gender exploration does more than put kids whose parents will be violent at risk
it means any kids who are unsure how their parent will react cannot safely do any sort of gender exploration then come out to their parents when they feel ready
so right now. tell your kid. don't give them any room for doubt.
@deilann when I came out to my Mom, the first thing she said was "We always knew there was something wrong with you." 
on the one hand she tries to be supportive but on the other hand, she thinks that the reason there are pedophiles in the Catholic Church (which has abused children of all kinds for hundreds of years) is because they became sexually permissive (in the 70s) and allowed gay young men into the priesthood 
@deilann@schwinghamer she tried
@schwinghamer @deilann Oh dear....
@deilann @DimestoreDiamond I took every opportunity I saw with my daughters to make sure they knew that anything LGBTQ was perfectly normal. My (ex-)wife even once commented that she thought I must “want them to be gay”. It wasn’t even specifically for if they came out…I just wanted them to be good people. (Joke’s on her, *I’m* the one who came out :)
@deilannit takes every opportunity to even slightly push through the haze of cisheteronormativity we're all meandering in
End Of An Era 
@deilann
this is how my mother raised me
15 years ago I was 10
I didn't know about my sexuality or gender
but I knew she would love and support me
no matter what,
I didn't feel a need to have a coming out
I didn't have any pressure over it
simply brought home my first bf eventually
introduced him as such, and it was perfectly normal
this is the ideal,
this is what we need
I got insanely lucky
@deilann tell them more than that. Tell them if they’re trans you’ll actively support their transition.
@deilann And the hard part (as someone whose parents made the right noises then proceeded to make me unwelcome): Actually mean it.