@alexocado@tech.lgbtThe hardest part about unmasking is developing the courage and resilience to act against the interest of another person (usually by upholding a personal boundary you've ignored so far) and to then strike the right balance in determining who deserves an explanation (because they actually want to listen) and who is a lost cause and just wants you to admit that you're wrong.
It's a really odd thing to go through when so far you've tried to please everyone. Who are you to put your judgement over the judgement of other people?
@alexocado I’m going through this now. How can you suddenly start advocating for yourself when you’ve never done it before? 
@alexocado@benjamincox I don't have a good answer for that. I've been starting with saying "no" more often and it grew from there.
I also accepted that I'll be ruffling some feathers. And sometimes I'll be wrong. It's important to not loose your ability to listen.
"determining who deserves an explanation (because they actually want to listen) and who is a lost cause and just wants you to admit that you're wrong."
That spoke to me. Thanks.