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@spatula Me so many times. :( Then I just have to deal with the fact the world is unfair... Do you experience sensitivity to others suffering too? Does it hit you hard? Ans also, because I am a human I thought you're autistic too. So excuse me if, I sounded rude with my question. 😳

@tardis I am very probably somewhere on the spectrum, though never professionally diagnosed. I am very high-functioning and have over many years found ways to cope with how absolutely fuckin' weird most people are. (Like why would you say one thing but do another??? What's that even about? You DON'T obsess about Doctor Who?? What?)

And yes, ironically I find that in this mode, folks on the spectrum, who are often painted with a broad brush that they have trouble with empathy, actually experience MORE empathy for others than most people. I think this characterization about people on the spectrum is wrong and lacks nuance: just because we may find it difficult to get inside another person's head, that doesn't AT ALL mean that we don't care what happens to them.

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@spatula Me, same! :) It's good to find someone else who relates to me. I have empathy, but I have to be connected to the people. I used to be able to not be connected to the people I could be empathic to, but trauma had a play in it. So, now it's different. also, is it only me, or does it sometimes feel like someone flipped a switch and suddenly you ge this weird brain fog and are like, nope, sorry, whatever you're saying, I can't understand or process it.

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@tardis I haven't experienced that so much, but sometimes when I am mentally tired or sleep deprived, certainly. I suspect I'm sort of just barely on the spectrum though, and my experiences are not representative of the vast sea of possibilities with neurodivergence.

The upside, of course, is being able to focus on incredibly complex, difficult problems that scare other people away. We're wired up differently, not wrongly.

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@spatula Yep. I think I might be experiencing the same, but also all day long, like you experience it when you're low on energy or tired.