hetero-attracted aces, do you consider yourself straight, queer, both, neither or other? I ask this without any gatekeepy bullshit, just out of interest. If you like a label, it's yours :) boosting is appreciated for larger sample size
@secretlySamantha I usually go with straight since it's the simplest option for explaining that I am attracted to men (since I am AFAB). So that's what I voted for, too. But ... given that I am increasingly becoming more accepting of the fact I might be nonbinary, I guess I should've gone with "It's complicated" instead. After all, what does straight even mean, in that context? Would a straight nonbinary person actually be the same as a bisexual nonbinary person?
And when you account for the fact that it is not impossible that I'll date a woman sometime in the future -- the idea does not feel as "right", but it isn't disturbing either -- it becomes wisest to just throw all the labels into the trashcan.
@Mayana I mean, I was interested in this question partially because it makes very little sense in that context, so it's mostly purely an emotional question. That and also Ace/Aro people frequently face erasure even within LGBTQIA spaces (even though they have a letter in that acronym) and so I was interested in how people feel about it. There's no conclusion based on this, but it is an interesting phenomenon :)
@secretlySamantha For me, it’s complicated.
As for “straight”, it looks like people use it with different meanings: in some contexts it’s used to describe someone who’s not gay, and in others to describe someone who’s not under the lgbtqia+ umbrella. Never sure if it applies to me.
As for “queer”, I’m torn between feeling that my perception of life, romance, and intimacy differs from most people’s (so I would be queer in some way), and thinking that I’m “too square” to describe myself as such.
@secretlySamantha It's definitely complicated.
I'm aromantic, so not even romantically attracted to anyone. Perhaps a bit less attracted to other men than to women, but so close to zero on both accounts that it doesn't really matter.
But still, a lot of my experience is based on heteronormativity, and in many ways matches more being straight than being queer. I am absolutely not straight, but queerness doesn't quite cover it either.
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